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Surrender to Win - Delusions of Control

Published on: 25th January, 2024

Surrender to Win - Delusions of Control

Several years ago, I wrote a song titled Surrender to Win. This song describes the paradox that has been a deep lesson in many areas of my life. For much of my life, I unconsciously believed that I had some kind of control over others. This was a coping mechanism and a compulsion that gave me a sense of safety. What I’ve learned and now truly appreciate is that when it comes to others, I have influence at best. What I suffered from was “delusions of control” and until I turned this around, my focus was perpetually stuck on others. When I stopped trying to control others and instead learned to listen, observe and for the most part enjoy others, that is when my relationships really started to blossom as well as my creativity and authentic self-expression. By learning to accept others and meeting them where they are, I'm now able to make healthy choices. When I stopped trying to control others I was able to focus on controlling myself, this changed everything.

Elizabeth

Sharing from her "lived experience" as a person in long term recovery from addiction and codependency, she takes a deep dive in to this common set of coping mechanisms.

The Five patterns of codependency:

Denial

Compliance

Avoidance

Control

Low Self Esteem

Here is the YouTube playlist link for this mini series

👉    • Codependency - Five Patterns  

• Codependency - Five Patterns

In this five part series, Singer Songwriter Elizabeth Edwards will share her experience with Codependency based on her "lived experience". She offers suggestions that have been helpful in her recovery because she believes that many with Substance Use Disorder (SUD) are limited by these patterns well into their recovery, as was her experience.

The Resources mentioned can be found at the link below:

https://givingvoicetorecovery.com/rec...

Elizabeth Edwards is a singer songwriter, and recording artist known for her smooth vocals and powerful lyrics. She is a person in long-term recovery from Substance Use Disorder. She is a speaker and advocate for recovery causes and currently serves on the National Board of Directors for Faces & Voices of Recovery. She is the host of the new Podcast Giving Voice to Recovery.

Giving Voice to Recovery celebrates those who have found purpose in using their voice to change perceptions and challenge stereotypes while inspiring hope and providing awareness to those still seeking solutions for addiction.

"There is a healing power in sharing our personal recovery journeys."

👍To Support Elizabeth and this channel please visit the GV2R Boutique:

https://givingvoicetorecovery.net/

The items in the GV2R Boutique are from Elizabeth's Lyrics and Designs and make great gift items to support people in recovery as well as support the podcast and the Giving Voice to Recovery channel.

💗For more about Elizabeth's Podcast visit:

https://givingvoicetorecovery.com/

🎵For more about Elizabeth's Music visit:

https://www.elizabethemusic.com/

#soberlife #werecover # recoverymusic #recoveryadvocate


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Giving Voice to Recovery
A Place for Inspiration Hope & Healing from Addiction
Giving Voice to Recovery is designed to encourage, inspire and educate people who are seeking help with addiction and for those who are already recovering. In addition to monthly interviews, Elizabeth is hosting a weekly episode of "Just Sayin", a short podcast discussion about recovery concepts and the language that helps us heal.



We cover these subjects in broad terms and focus on solutions, education, support and community. We challenge the stigma of addiction and encourage healthy living. We are determined to thrive in recovery.



Join us as we share our stories about surviving addiction and thriving in sobriety. Follow Singer Songwriter Elizabeth Edwards as she interviews artists, authors, comedians, musicians, advocates, experts and inspirational figures from a compassionate and heartfelt solution based perspective.



Giving Voice to Recovery celebrates those who have found purpose in using their voice to change perceptions and challenge stereotypes while inspiring hope and providing awareness to those still seeking solutions.

"There is a healing power in sharing our personal recovery journeys."


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Elizabeth Edwards

Giving Voice to Recovery is a podcast for those ready to move beyond survival and into emotional sobriety, self-trust, and purposeful living.

Hosted by singer-songwriter and recovery advocate Elizabeth Edwards, the show blends deep healing work with the power of music and storytelling. Drawing on decades of lived recovery experience, Elizabeth explores what it really takes to break free from codependency, people-pleasing, and self-betrayal—while helping you reclaim your voice, creativity, and personal power.

Through honest conversations, practical tools, and soul-centered insight, this podcast guides you into a new way of being rooted in emotional freedom and lasting transformation.
About Elizabeth —
Elizabeth Edwards is a singer-songwriter, trauma-informed coach, and creator of the Power Practice & Purpose methodology. She is the founder of Giving Voice to Recovery and serves on the Board of Directors for Faces & Voices of Recovery.